Off the cuff rambling
It's Sunday morning. I'm sitting here in a very quiet house, so nothing will do but to make keyboard noises and reflect a bit.
There is someone who has been my friend for years. We stay in touch sporadically - last time I talked with him was August 3. I know this because it was my vacation, it was 150 degrees out (it seemed that way), and I had the temerity to ask him out for a cup of coffee.
When I got home on Friday, there was a message from him on my machine. He called me by the name my family does and said - GIRL, you finally got a machine, it's about time. I've tried to call you 14 times in the last month. Call me back, darlin.
And I did, and we talked for two hours.
Not sure what ingredients it takes to make a lasting friendship. Perhaps it was the time he was on a business trip and he called to tell me it was snowing in Ohio. Maybe it was all the dates I hooked him up with, or the bets we made, or the time he just happened by when my car was broken down (this was july!) beside Highway 1 in Aberdeen. Perhaps it's a connection that transcends the physical. Before I got home on Friday night, he popped into my mind, and suddenly, between the distance from here to there, I was struck with an overwhelming need to see or talk to him. And there was the message on the machine. Perhaps it's sharing and caring enough to let the other person know what's going on in your life, letting them know they count.
He certainly counts.
And so I offered to cook for him (he's not well) and he offered me the nicotine patches he couldn't use when he quit smoking - he switched to a pill instead - and he's down from three packs a day to NONE! I'm so proud of him!
And I'm proud he's my friend. Had I chosen a different path in life, he might have been more.
7 comments:
What a nice tribute to a great friend. We should all have someone like him in our lives to make the road easier to travel. Glad you have yours!
Donna
It is so nice to have this happen. Awee... I like a happy story.
Brenda
its sweet to have male friends, isnt it?? i opt for the gay ones, that way, i never have to think of THOSE kinda thoughts...the what ifs? and such LOL
lizzzzzzzzza
Oh I love having friends of all types, all ages ... life experiences vary so greatly, it adds to your own experience with life when your friends are diverse. And I too, have had male friends..with no thought as to going further in any direction other than friendship. Sandi http://journals.aol.com/sdoscher458/LifeIsFullOfSurprises
actually, not having a romantic relationship with them might be the thing that lends to the lasting friendship. that's been my experience, anyway!
thanks y'all :-)
Thats wonderful. Wish I had a friend like that. My experience has always been a woman comes into the picture who is jealous. Paula
wow..wow..wow....what a wonderful reflections on friendship.
Gem :-)
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