WELL - it's good thing my 14 year old nephew has loose lips. the child couldn't keep a secret if it was crazy-glued to him, and yesterday he let it slip that my 18 year old son, dale, is engaged. to a very pregnant young lady. and he isn't the father.
don't get me wrong - at his age, and given circumstances...it just seems the cautious thing to do would be go a little bit more slowly. but then, what do we know of caution when we're 18?
and so, he has heard "give it some time. see how it goes before you dive into the deep end." whether he takes that advice or not is up to him. and should he marry this young lady, and adopt the baby - well. he (it's a boy) will be just as much my grandchild as any other that i have - another tiny person to love, and that is not a bad thing.
my son hasn't been home for about 2 weeks now - just long enough to grab his clothes and head back out. he's safe, has a job,a new car and he's happy. the empty nest i dreaded was a sneaking thing - it's here like a thunderclap, all of a sudden. and it occurs to me, now that it's here...
a person's cabinet should contain only 1 glass, cup, plate, bowl, etc for each person living in the house. that cuts down on dishwashing, if you think about it, because you aren't so tempted to reach into the cabinet and get another before the other is washed! in the event of company, there's chinet plates and solo plastic cups, both of which will bring a reality to my most wicked fantasy - throwing the dishes away after a meal. :-D
one big trip to the grocery store and i could have enough food to last for a month. i could cook 2 days a week and that would be plenty. or you wouldn't have to eat at all if you didn't want to...just pop a vitamin and grab a celery stick on your way out the door.
i've made a list of things i can do in the house, now that i don't have to be decent and respectable. walk straight out of the bathroom after a shower, au naturale. put on that mud mask and not worry about traumatizing the kid in the next room.
oh yeah, it's gonna be fun...
maybe.
5 comments:
It will be, you'll see. Besides, they come back like boomerangs. The proclamation *go forth and multiply* is really true.
I admire your attitude!*
Good Luck & God Bless. :)
Tina*
Go for it! lol
As for your son: I agree. He'll do what he's going to do, whether it's best or not. And maybe it will work out. Either way, I'm like you, that would be my grandbaby no matter what!
Lori
I had a classmate who married a girl that was pregnant with some other guy's baby. They are still married 50 years later and she has MS. He takes the best care of her. I think your son will do the right thing for everyone and you have a good attitude. Paula
You have a great attitude! Some parents would be freaking out! I hope your son makes the best decision for himself. What he wants to do is very honorable yet 18 is so young to get married. As for the empty nest, don't remind me. My fist baby leave for college next month. I'm going to be a mess!
Oh Mara...I've been going through the empty nest thing for the last two years since my youngest moved out. The way I had my kids I've been with children since I was 21 and now I'm 62 so it was almost forty years of parenting. Hard habit to break. On the upside it is nice to take a shower and walk out au naturel without a care, or know that the last bit of apple pie will still be there when you want it. They do come back for a visit now and then - with which we can console ourselves...knowing that we are all completing the circle of life....SAndi
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